Tuesday, July 8, 2014
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Wednesday, June 18, 2014
I've been hearing a lot lately about the wonders of polyamory. Truth be told, it's a bunch of shit. Oh, it has it's uses, to be sure. It allows the shallow narcissists to cluster together and remove themselves from the dating pool but that's about it. Well, there is the fact that "polyamorist" is classier-sounding that "swinger", too. For anyone who really values the people they love it's a crock. How can it be anything else? It's simply dehumanizing to have two or more people competing for the limited time an attention of one person - and there will always be competition. And there will always be a person in the mix who always loses out due to an awkward work schedule or geographic location. There is an inherent imbalance of power in multiple relationships. The rising popularity of poly is kind of a sad commentary on how we're becoming more and more afraid of commitments, loss and hurt. Love can be painful sometimes so more people just avoid it and focus on immediate gratification rather than long term commitment. If there's multiple people in a relationship - some of whom may even be involved in an alogether different group of relationships - then there's nothing to value so there's nothing to lose. People come and go and who cares?
Monday, June 9, 2014
Am I the only one noticing that people like Dan Savage are decrying the victim mentality...by claiming to be themselves victims? Or that they deny that people can tell them how to feel about things by telling people how they should feel? I really don't take their claims of being hounded by the thought police seriously when it's obvious that it's less about politics as it is about celebrities spoiled by yes-men whining that they're not universally and uncritically adored.
Wednesday, June 4, 2014
When it comes to the LGBT community I kinda bridge the gap in etwen old and new school. I guess everyone in Generation X does to some extent. What troubles me about this is the growing sense of nostalgia for the good old days. Understandable, perhaps, that the millenials and later Xers might wish to idealize the carefree days before AIDS and wish to live that way. Or to look with longng at the tight-knit gay commuities where LGBT people came to throw off the shackles of convention. But we always forget paradise has a price. The contemporary notion of the gay community of the 60's and 70's is romanticized nonsense. It wasn't bold adenturers exploring new ground in a peaceful association. It was people forced out of their own lives and communities seeking safety in numbers in dark corners. There wasn't passion or lust motivating anonymous hook-ups - there was fear of discovery. Predictably, those Milenials who've picked up the mantle of "Twoo Olde Guard" wish to cast judgements based on their own romanticzed nostalgia and demean anyone who wants to be a part of the culture rather than be in opposition to it.